Update on Momma

She was not eating and keeping it down so the nurse came by and said we may have three weeks left. I'm not very happy about that I told my daughter I would just like to go away for awhile and not see here suffer. But I guess I'm stuck here I do hope she goes peaceable it will help us all. I'm glad my daughter came out to help she pretty much takes care of my wife.
Walt

Walt There is nothing anyone can say or do for you or her at this point that will make it "better".

Here is what I DO KNOW. You have to be there for her and yourself. If you don't you will never forgive yourself when it's over.

Now this does not mean 24/7. You need some time away, everyday. Even if it is just an hour or so. Make arrangements for that. In most areas there is Hospice care that is very reasonable for this time in the battle. They where a great help with my first wife. They KNOW how to help you and her. This what they "do".

I don't know where you are located but if I can I would be glad to help in anyway.

J D Seller has a good suggestion, get hospice involved if at all possible. All it takes is a phone call. On my wife's last visit to the cancer center the doctor suggested that and she even called hospice. They came out to the house, took all necessary information and said call us if you need us. My wife lived less that 24 hrs. We called hospice, a lady came out, notified the doctors, funeral home, etc. It took a heavy load off the family and myself. There is a lot of help available that many folks don't know about.

a friend of ours just passed,and hospice was a very good thing,helped everyone and with dignity and caring respect

First my condolences to you. Second I agree on calling hospice. They were a huge help with my Mom.

Walt, sorry about your situation. Take care of yourself, let wife know you will be there for her and arrange for someone to let you det away couple hours a day. JDSeller gave good advise. Praying for grace and peace during this time

Thanks guys I have been maried almost 40 years now and it's real hard to let go. I'm thinking about going down to Ca to visit my sister when the end is near and I can't sit and talk I don't want to see her die I would rather remember as she is now alive and pretty.
Walt

Walt, its hard to hear of this news, and what you are facing, but you may find solace with your friends here, suggestions, advice and care, to help you bolster up to do what you must however you do it. Sorry to hear of this and the grief that may accompany it.

I felt the same about the farmer I helped for years, it was very difficult, I had see him suffer many times leading up to the end, and had to come to grips with it somehow, knew him since day one here on this earth, you think back to all the memories, the times, etc. He fought off the health issues for years. I sat with him one last time for about 3 hours, usually the same conversation and current affairs, but he was fading, needed assistance, and I knew then with this internal bleeding problem, he won't be here much longer, 2 months later he passed away and I paid my respects, I remembered him as he was and though I wanted to see him again, I was ok that I did not, knowing the last time I visited with him, I had to accept the situation, there was no other choice, now or later. It was not easy when he passed, I felt a ton of grief from it, but as days passed, it too faded, I have fond memories, lots of photos and the pride knowing that I worked with one of the last farmers in the area of the town where I grew up, worked with him, his sons and enjoyed every minute of it, so the good does balance the not so good, or so I like to think. You may find solace in this experience, and maybe not, but I share it only to help, it certainly was not easy, but I focused on the fun memories over all the years, and that was well over 40.

You do as your heart tells you, no shame in it, take breaks as you need them, you are human and its what gives you strength. Take care and be well, truly sorry for the difficult times you may face ahead.

Walt, sorry to hear the sad news.

Don't know your situation or her state of mind, but if you leave before she's gone you may come to regret it. I left my Dad's hospital room just a couple of hours before he passed, I still wish I'd stayed there for him.

Prayers for your wife, you, and the family.

Walt, I am so sorry. Unfortunately there is little we can do to ease your pain except send condolences for whatever good that does. Losing a spouse is the most stressful event one can go through.

So very sorry for you. I agree with the others, contact hospice.

We have been under Hispice care for two weeks now they are filling my house up with all kinds of things. I even got free cat and dog food.
Walt

I'm so sorry to hear this, Walt.

I'm glad she is receiving hospice care. My dad received hospice care before his passing. It is a very good thing for the patient and their loved ones.

Sorry to hear of your situation. we are going through the same thing here with my 96 year old mother. Hospice is a wonderful organization. The next few weeks are going to be rough and you have our best wishes. Rand

Walt,
I know you are doing the best that can be done. My prayer for you and your family.
Paul

The hospice is good care, they will also keep in touch with you later to make sure YOU are OK.

Walt. know what you are going thru, hardest thing I ever did was sit by helpless knowing there was nothing I could do watching my wife dying, as others have said hospisce is great they are truely careing people whose only concern is to make the last days as pain free and comforable as possible. Too this day I regett leaving my wifes side for a couple of hours one night.

Walt, I'm so sorry to hear that.
Stick it out. Be there with her. You have been all these years.
Get help from hospice. They were a great resource for me.
I pray for strength and comfort for you both.