Just been reading a post below, about teaching the wife to rolling hay, which leads me to my own dilemma. I have just gotten out of the hospital yesterday after an operation and a five day stay which has left me incapacitated for the next few weeks I have found that I need to leave the tilling and planting to others. Everyone one is volunteering to run the big tractors, just hop in and go, no thoughts on gear election ground speed, engine rpm's or fuel consumption. Just git an go!
One son planted about 15 acres of beans, he had never done it before, getting his instructions, by phone from my wife as she relayed them from me while I am flat on my back in the hospital. How did he do? Only time will tell. He was encouraged because the beans kept disappearing from the seed boxes so they must have at least hit the ground and rolled under the soil.
Then my wife said that they had decided no to plant the next ten acres because it was too wet. Here is my chance to make a fools mistake and I took the opportunity to heart and jumped right in, how is it, "I asked" that one field was dry enough to plant and the next one not? Her reply, "most of it was dry but it was a little too damp on the one end near the bottom". I could not keep my big mouth shut " why didn't you just plant the dry part and leave the bottom alone" I asked. "I knew that I would do something wrong", "she replied" from now on you can do it yourself.
I had put that poor girl in a difficult position but I was not wise enough to keep my mouth shut when her decision was not the one I might have made. I have tried to tell her that she made the right decision but she has chosen to ignore my attempts at an apology.
One son planted about 15 acres of beans, he had never done it before, getting his instructions, by phone from my wife as she relayed them from me while I am flat on my back in the hospital. How did he do? Only time will tell. He was encouraged because the beans kept disappearing from the seed boxes so they must have at least hit the ground and rolled under the soil.
Then my wife said that they had decided no to plant the next ten acres because it was too wet. Here is my chance to make a fools mistake and I took the opportunity to heart and jumped right in, how is it, "I asked" that one field was dry enough to plant and the next one not? Her reply, "most of it was dry but it was a little too damp on the one end near the bottom". I could not keep my big mouth shut " why didn't you just plant the dry part and leave the bottom alone" I asked. "I knew that I would do something wrong", "she replied" from now on you can do it yourself.
I had put that poor girl in a difficult position but I was not wise enough to keep my mouth shut when her decision was not the one I might have made. I have tried to tell her that she made the right decision but she has chosen to ignore my attempts at an apology.
But all her life she's had so many people telling her how stupid she is and how she can't do anything right. HA!! Of course, that also meant she can no longer refuse to do something out of fear. It's not that I want her doing everything around here (which sometimes it seems that way), but rather that something could happen and I might not be here tomorrow. What'll she do then, call a neighbor? Don't have any. Call a friend? None around. Family? Nope. 
